Want to Raise Successful Daughters? Science Says Nag the Heck out of Them

Having a nagging mother is something that daughters hate! However, although your daughter might resent you in the short-term for being a pushy mom, it turns out that there are multiple long-terms benefits for both of you which are definitely worth it.

A study done by a team of researchers at the University of Essex has shown that daughters with pushy mothers are more likely to be successful. “Behind every successful woman is a nagging mom? Teenage girls more likely to succeed if they have pushy mothers.”

Girls whose parents have high expectations are less likely to become pregnant in their teens and perform better at school

Ericka Rascon-Ramirez, the head researchers, studied the lives of 15,770 girls for the course of 6 years. They were first interviewed at the ages of 13 and 14. It was found that higher parental expectations actually lowered the likelihood of teenage pregnancy.

“It is worth highlighting that the measure of expectations considered in this study, reflects a combination of aspirations and beliefs about the likelihood of attending Higher Education reported by the main parent, who in the majority of cases, is the mother.”

As much as nagging parents annoy teenagers, their influence is undoubtable.

This study also found that nagging parents led to positive results in the academic performance is teenage girls, especially if they weren’t pretty much academic. As the researchers explain, these girls don’t have any teachers of friends to motivate them, so the impact of a nagging/ pushy parent seems more pronounced.

In addition, even when teenage girls try to act independently, ignoring their parents` expectations, the nagging still has an influence on their performance.

“What our parents expected about our school choices was a major determinant of our decisions about conceiving a child or not during our teenage years”

“In many cases, we succeeded in doing what we believed was more convenient for us, even when this was against our parents’ will,” Rascon-Ramirez.“But no matter how hard we tried to avoid our parents’ recommendations, it is likely that they ended up influencing, in a more subtle manner, choices that we had considered extremely personal.

“What our parents expected about our school choices was, very likely, a major determinant of our decisions about conceiving a child or not during our teenage years.”

So, what this study has shown is that when mothers demand a lot from their daughters, they are more likely to avoid elements that compromise success, such as teen pregnancy, abandoning academics, or unemployment.

The bottom line is that contrary to popular belief, reminding your children to wash the dishes or do their homework over and over again doesn’t only teaches them to tune out your voice. It actually makes them more successful in life later on! After all, all the doors slams, tantrums, and eye rolls are worth it!

20 Things A Mother should tell her Son.

  1. Play a sport. It will teach you how to win honorably, lose gracefully, respect authority, work with others, manage your time and stay out of trouble. And maybe even throw or catch.

  2. You will set the tone for the sexual relationship, so don’t take something away from her that you can’t give back.

  3. Use careful aim when you pee. Somebody’s got to clean that up, you know.

  4. Save money when you’re young because you’re going to need it someday.

  5. Allow me to introduce you to the dishwasher, oven, washing machine, iron, vacuum, mop and broom. Now please go use them.

  6. Pray and be a spiritual leader.

  7. Don’t ever be a bully and don’t ever start a fight, but if some idiot clocks you, please defend yourself.

  8. Your knowledge and education is something that nobody can take away from you.

  9. Treat women kindly. Forever is a long time to live alone and it’s even longer to live with somebody who hates your guts.

  10. Take pride in your appearance.

  11. Be strong and tender at the same time.

  12. A woman can do everything that you can do. This includes her having a successful career and you changing diapers at 3 A.M. Mutual respect is the key to a good relationship.

  13. “Yes ma’am” and “yes sir” still go a long way.

  14. The reason that they’re called “private parts” is because they’re “private”. Please do not scratch them in public.

  15. Peer pressure is a scary thing. Be a good leader and others will follow.

  16. Bringing her flowers for no reason is always a good idea.

  17. It is better to be kind than to be right.

  18. A sense of humor goes a long way in the healing process.

  19. Please choose your spouse wisely. My daughter-in-law will be the gatekeeper for me spending time with you and my grandchildren.

  20. Remember to call your mother because I might be missing you.

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